Pediatrician

I called my pediatrician's office to ask if I could have a 'talking appointment' to discuss the pediatric portion of my Birth Plan. The receptionist gave me a flat, "No." to any appointment that was just to meet with the doc. I understand that they can't 'bill' for that, but the best doctors I've been to have made the time for interviews in their practice. I pushed a little and she suggested I leave a message for a doctor and let them decide if they would call me back.

They did call me back pretty quickly, but it became evident that the doctor had no idea what I was looking for. When I said I wanted to go over my birth plan concerning kangaroo care, Vit K, immunizations, newborn tests and breastfeeding twins to make sure that when I was in the hospital that the nurses and staff knew I had my care provider's backing on rooming in (this hospital is notorious for trying to force babies to the nursery instead of leaving them with mom) and other things I felt strongly about, the doctor was obvious confused why I was calling. I'd hoped that this would help if any questions arose in the hospital so that I would have leverage in the moment. She kept assuring me that a doctor would make 'rounds' everyday and answer any questions I had once the babies were born.

I kept asking if we could meet and review my birth plan in advance. Finally, I realized the disconnect: She didn't know a birth plan was a written document that I wanted put in my medical file. When I explained that she got quiet and uncomfortable. Then she said, "Well, if you want us to sign a formal plan we'll have to meet and read over it."

Finally! "Yes. That is exactly what I want!"

Then she asked, "Is this something you did with your other births?"

"Yes, of course."

"Hmmm. How strange."

I felt the same way about her. Sorry to be negative. But I don't understand why I get treated like I am an alien with two heads. I just want to communicate, negotiate and get on the same page with my care providers. I would imagine not wanting that would be the odd way of doing business. Sigh...

The Strange Mom